I have wanted to write a blog for a long time. I have actually started a couple over the past 5 years and just fizzled out. One thing that has deterred me from really going for my goal was the thought that no one would want to listen to my words because I was not perfect. If people knew how messy my house was, if they knew that sometimes I yelled at my kids, if they knew that I wasn’t always loving and kind, then they they for sure wouldn’t want to listen to my blog. I thought that my imperfection negated any good that I did. Crazy thought pattern right? Well, I am learning that I am not the only one who has negative thought patterns. And I am learning better ways to self-talk. Learning ways to tell myself it’s okay if I’m not perfect. I am still good. Because we can’t be perfect here on earth.
I recently started attending therapy sessions with one of my children. It has not only been a huge blessing to that child, but a huge blessing to me. I think on my own I had started on the path to learning better self talk already. But going and listening to our wonderful therapist, I was even more convinced of the necessity of each of us to learn how to look after ourselves. To look after our mental health. Because as mothers, we need to lead the way for our children. If we pattern negative thoughts, our kids are so quick to pick up on those.
Our therapist recommended this website Centre for Clinical Interventions. They are a therapy organization based in Western Australia. If you click on the link it will take you to their page that looks like this:
If you click on one of these topics, it gives a summary of what that topic is about. Then it allows you to click on the workbook section. Here are two examples.
After clicking on the workbook, you can start working through their modules. My child has been working though the perfection modules.
I have justified being busy and have not started yet. But this week I am not making up any more excuses. I am going to start. I hope some of you will find a topic of interest to you and do some modules too. You will want a notebook to journal your answers to the module.
Next Monday I will talk about what I learned personally as I go through the first module for perfectionism. I hope some of you will have a desire to share if you do one too.
I am thankful for each day I have to learn and grow. And I want to be a better example to my children of taking care of myself. And of having healthy thoughts and actions. Taking care of our mental health is so important. And I hope that we as parents can teach our kids and this upcoming generation that taking care of your mental health doesn’t mean you are strange or something is wrong with you. We all need to do this. Our society needs more of us to talk about healthy ways to take care of our mental health. Currently it is often very expensive to visit a therapist. This website it totally free. So if you can’t squeeze out the money for a visit, I think this is a good option.
But I also highly recommend finding a good therapist if you can afford it. Because even as my child has done the modules, it often takes the therapist to help this child see that as they wrote goals for improving, they were holding themselves accountable to accepting only perfection as success. It is helpful to talk to someone else. If you can’t afford a therapist, pray for a friend that will help you, to be a listening ear, to encourage you to be accountable to doing the modules, to making baby steps of progress each week. Feel free to message me any time!
I am so grateful for the opportunity to write my thoughts each week on this blog. And I’m grateful to all of you who have supported me in this journey. I look forward to next week, and another week to follow President Hinckley’s advice.
Notice he didn’t say perfect at all. He said “Try a little harder to be a little better.” Just like growing baby pumpkins, it takes time. Baby steps friends, baby steps.
Have a wonderful Monday! Take some time today to take care of you.
Life is Good. Share the Good.
PS There is also links for helping loved ones who struggle with these same things.:)